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Are you searching for that magical place where you have food freedom, mental space and presence, less anxiety, no comparison while also not gaining weight, not experiencing extreme hunger, not challenging your fears? I hate to break it to you but that place simply doesn’t exist. I know because I tried for so many years - more than a decade in fact - to find a way to recover and be recovered without letting go of the whole disorder. It felt that every time I attempted recovery

Nervous system regulation is a buzz phrase at the moment and while I do think that’s a good thing, I think some crucial elements of regulation may be overlooked - especially for those in recovery from a restrictive eating disorder. All the breathwork and meditation in the world will not regulate your nervous system if your body is physiologically under-resourced. What I mean by that, is that regular, adequate food is the most critical factor in your nervous system regulation

One of the things that I talk about a lot is holding your Why for recovery very close. Using that as motivation and as a tool to put the distress of recovery in perspective. To maintain a reminder of what the bigger goal is, or what recovery will enable for you. But there is a potential trap with this advice - what if you don’t know what you want your life to be? What if you don’t have a clear passion that your ED is threatening to take you away from? What if the future witho

For far too long in my own recovery I was convinced I had to take recovery “at my pace”. If I could carefully manage my own recovery then one day I would be free. It took me a long time to recognise that pattern as appeasement - this was exactly playing into the hands of my ED. I was tweaking tiny parts of my intake and hoping that it would smash the cage entirely open. Needless to say, it did not work. Taking baby steps only maintained my ED for even longer. The ED thrives o

One of the least favourite characteristics of my time with an ED was my tendency to be a food snob and a very picky eater. In my opinion, one of the most fun attributes in a person is an openness and willingness to go with the flow. A curiosity about the world, including what to eat. An ease of being the person who can let others decide what they would really like. When I had an ED, one of the ways that restriction showed up - in quite a socially acceptable way - was to turn

From what I understand of the internet there can be a lot of misunderstanding out there around what exactly a recovery coach is, and what exactly they do. I’m hoping that this blog post can clarify what a coach is, what it isn’t, and how it might differ from other forms of support. I’m in the fortunate position to be a recovery coach who has also been through the coaching process in my own recovery. I know what it is like to be on both sides of this equation. And with this e